Abusive Relationship Checklist
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Does your partner:
- Require you to get permission to hang out with your friends?
- Accuse you of cheating when you talk to or dance with strangers, or when you leave the house to run errands, etc?
- Control your money or your spending?
- Tell you that no one else would ever want you?
- Threaten to harm his or herself if you ever leave?
- Go through your purse, wallet or your mail?
- Act in a way that scares you (in public or private)?
- Use information against you that you have confided in the past?
- Sabotage your efforts to join in family or other social events?
- Compare you negatively to your peers (ie: your friend is so much skinnier and prettier than you)?
- Give you the silent treatment when you want to talk or work things out?
- Try to turn your children against you?
- View your own interests and activities as unimportant or trivial?
- Sabotage your schedule or other commitments?
- Commonly break or throw things when angry or when things do not go their way?
- Frequently express interest in your past dating history?
- Feel that there are times in a relationship when it is okay to be violent?
- Become easily angered if you are not constantly attentive to him or her?
- Drink or use drugs nearly every day, or go on periodic binges?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Fear talking about certain topics with your partner unless they are in a good mood?
- Have to seek permission for wearing certain outfits?
- Feel nervous about being on the phone when your partner is around?
- Fear returning home later than your partner anticipated for fear of his or her reaction?
- Feel like you have more of a parent than a partner?
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Does your partner:
- Express happiness that you have other friends (even those you do not share in common)?
- Ask for or consider your opinions?
- Both talk and listen to you?
- Have a good relationship with his or her own family?
- Have at least a few good, close friends?
- Have interests beside you?
- Respect your right to make decisions affecting your own life?
- Accept responsibility for his or her own actions rather than blaming failures on you?