Are You Being Stalked?
- Following you and/or frequently showing up wherever you are?
- Driving by or hanging out at your favorite places or wherever you most often go?
- Repeatedly calling, texting, or emailing? This includes hang-ups or calls from blocked, random, or unknown numbers.
- Causing damage to your home, car, or other property?
- Sending unwanted gifts, letters, or cards?
- Monitoring your phone calls or computer use?
- Tracking where you are or where you go through hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS)?
- Finding out personal information about you through public records, online search engines, private investigators, examining your garbage, contacting your friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers?
- Exhibiting any other actions that are designed to control, track, or frighten you?
For more information, check out the National Center for Victims of Crime or the CSU, Chico Police Department website
How to Handle Being Stalked
What to do if you think you are being stalked:
- If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.
- Recognize warning signs and trust your instincts; if you feel like you are in danger, you probably are.
- Take threats seriously. Danger is usually more imminent when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or, in the case of an intimate partner or former intimate partner, when the person being stalked tries to leave or end the relationship.
- Contact Safe Place. This organization can help you create a safety plan, inform you of your legal rights and local laws, and broaden your safety options.
- Change your routine so that it becomes difficult for your stalker to find you.
- Arrange for an alternate place to stay if you feel your home is no longer safe and you may be in danger there.
- Ask friends or relatives to go places with you, especially if you are going to be somewhere you know your stalker is going to be.
- Explain the situation to friends, trusted co-workers, faculty, community members, or neighbors. Show them a picture of your stalker and advise them to contact law enforcement right away if they see that person around you.
- Do not communicate with your stalker or respond to their attempts to contact you.
- Keep any and all evidence of the stalking. It will be helpful to have records of all incidents if you should decide to pursue the matter in court by way of a restraining order. This includes keeping a record or log of the time, date, and place of contact. E-mails, phone messages, texts, letters, or gifts can also be useful so do not delete them from your phone, computer, tablet, etc. If you or your property are injured or damaged by your stalker, take pictures or ask witnesses to write a statement of what they saw.
- Contact the police to report that are you are being stalked. Stalking is a crime.
- Consider the potential benefits of obtaining a restraining order.
- Tell security at your job or school about the situation and ask them to help keep you safe.
- Remember that you are not to blame for your stalker's behavior.