Are You Being Stalked?

Does someone:

  • Follow you and/or frequently show up wherever you are?
  • Drive by or hang out at your favorite places or wherever you most often go?
  • Repeatedly call, text, or leave other messages? This includes hang-ups.
  • Cause damage to your home, car, or other property?
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, or cards?
  • Monitor your phone calls or computer use?
  • Track where you are or where you go through hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS)?
  • Find out personal information on you through public records, online search engines, private investigators, examining your garbage, contacting your friends, family, neighbors, or coworkers?
  • Exhibit any other actions that are designed to control, track, or frighten you?

For more information, check out the National Center for Victims of Crime or the CSU, Chico Police Department Web page

How to Handle Being Stalked

What to do if you are being stalked:

  • If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.
  • Recognize warning signs. Trust your instincts; if you feel you are in danger, you probably are.
  • Take threats seriously. Danger is usually more imminent when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when the person being stalked tries to leave or end the relationship.
  • Contact Safe Place, Catalyst Domestic Violence Services, or Rape Crisis. These organizations can help you create a safety plan, inform you on your legal rights or local laws, and broaden your safety options.
  • Change your routine so that the stalker has difficulty finding you.
  • Arrange with your friends for a place to stay if you feel you are in danger.
  • Ask friends or relatives to go places with you, especially if you are going to be somewhere you know the stalker is going to show up.
  • Explain the situation to friends or trusted co-workers, faculty, community members, or neighbors and tell them how they may help you.
  • Do not communicate or contact the stalker or respond to their attempts to contact you.
  • Keep any evidence of the stalking. It will be helpful if it becomes necessary to pursue the situation in court if you have a record of when the stalker contacts you, including keeping the time, date, and place. E-mails, phone messages, texts, letters, or gifts can also come in handy. If you or your property are injured or damaged by the stalker, take pictures or ask witnesses to take down what they saw.
  • Contact the police to report that are you are being stalked. Stalking is a crime.
  • Consider the costs and benefits of obtaining a restraining order.
  • Tell security at your job or school about the stalker and ask them to help keep you safe.
  • Remember that you are not to blame for a stalker's behavior.